Having women in the workplace presents many benefits. However, when women are not empowered, can they truly reach their goals? When these women start falling under the false beliefs that they always have something to prove, that their opinion does not matter or that the whole world (especially men) is after them, it distracts them from reaching their full potential.
Here are a few lies women in business believe that keep them from being great
IF I ASK FOR HELP, THEY WILL THINK I AM TOO WEAK
It is clear that society puts pressure on us (especially with many feminist movements) to prove ourselves all the time. We want to show the world that we are not weaker than men and oftentimes, we tend to take way too much on our shoulders. As women entrepreneur, it is important to learn how to let go and ask for help when necessary. It is impossible to get everything done on your own. It is not that you are not good enough but, by surrounding yourself with the right people, you will be able to build strong partnerships that will increase your business’s chances of reaching success. Do not be afraid or ashamed to ask for help or to ask to be mentored. True strength is shown in your ability to recognize your weaknesses.
HAVING CHILDREN (A FAMILY) WILL DECREASE MY CHANCES OF REACHING SUCCESS
Many women are afraid even desire a family life while pursuing their career. As women, we have he right to be successful AND have a family. One does not exclude the other. It is important to stop believing the lie that having a baby or being a wife will make you less of a business woman. Whether you are employed and pregnant or thinking about enlarging your family, you need to know your rights and not allow anybody to make you believe false information. Being a woman with responsibilities at home might even make you a better leader, listener and organizer. Of course this is not the case for everybody but it does give you qualities that can be beneficial in the workplace.
FEMALE COLLEAGUES ARE MY ENEMIES
Society has trained us to see people as competition. Whether it is in the workplace or on the market, women often see other women as competition instead of potential partners. This idea that every other woman is after you is false. If we learn to work together instead of against each other, we will become stronger and reach higher goals.
IF I VOICE MY OPINION, I WILL BE PERCEIVED AS BEING Bossy
I have heard a saying once while reading Girl Boss By Sophia Amoruso. It said: “When a man takes control he is the boss. when a woman does, she is seen as being bossy.” It is a lie to think that you cannot voice your opinions because you fear what others will think of you. If you have been placed were you are for a purpose, it means that you are fully equipped to add value to the company you work for or the one you own. If you know an idea will benefit your team, do not keep it to yourself. You have the right to share your greatness with the world.
I ALWAYS NEED TO BE BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE
While it is a great thing to give it your all and challenge yourself, it is not a good thing to always feel like you have something to prove. Because women have been seen as “less then enough” for so long, I understand that you might feel like you need to push the limits all the time. However, this is only a source of distraction. When you believe the lie that you always need to be the best at everything, you fail giving your full attention to the things you were always meant to be doing. You start wanting to fed your ego more than you want to make a positive impact and truly feel fulfilled.
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Ann-Sophie Ovile, Writer, Shortstints